In a real sense what do you think life is? do you think its a bed of roses, do you think its a place of all fun, do you think it is a place where you will come and jump around, a place where anything can be taken for granted. Do you believe you can be in this life and still remain invalid, you can be in this life and leave as a nobody, you can be in this life and remain stunted. You can be in this life and have no voice.
You can be in the life but not existing why because you have not taken a bold step. Life is for risk takers and not for those that wait for opportunity; it is for those who search for opportunities. Stop sleeping, wake up and face the reality of life. (Principles)
Try to be a winner in the race of life and not a quitter, for those who quit don't get the price the desire, desires don't give you the price you seek, but acting upon your desires are the backbone that gives you the price, stop sleeping and wake up to reality. You can't be what you don't desire, you can desire but action is needed to accomplish your desire, I really want to take water does not give you water to drink, but I want to take water and getting up to getting the water is what gives you water to drink. It does not matter long it will take you to get there, just get up and start moving, gradually you will find yourself at your destination, gradually you will reach where your destiny holds for, remember a journey of a thousand miles starts with just a step. Don’t just stand there, take a step of faith bold enough for you to reach your destination.
Don't waste your engagement.
Loving the woman like Christ did the church, but as the day draws nearer and nearer, i am made more and more aware of my need for wisdom and help to become a husband capable of loving a wife well.
Discuss The Hard Things.
The more issues you can talk about together before marriage, the better. It is far more frustrating and threatening to think of something after you are married that you should have talked about before hand.
If You're In A Relationship But Like Someone Else, Here's What To Do.
It's perfectly natural for human beings to develop crushes. I mean, if you ask me, having a crush is one of the best parts of the human experience. That's why it's always seemed so silly to me that we're expected to suddenly stop developing crushes on other people as soon as we enter relationships. I mean, what happens if you're in a relationship but like someone else?
Does it automatically make you a bad person? Of course not. Does it make you a cheater? Well, that depends on how you act on it and what sort of relationship you're in. Honestly, as far as I'm concerned, it's a little unrealistic to expect to have eyes for your partner and no one else for the entirety of your relationship. Hopefully, your partner is the main person you're interested in, but it's perfectly fine to think, "Hmm, maybe I'd be into that person if I were single," every once in a while. It's human nature! If you never ever think that and only have eyes for your partner, more power to you. But if you don't, there's no need to fret.
If you're stressing about this, I come bearing help! In a recent Reddit AskWomen thread, ladies who've experienced this conundrum themselves give their best tips for how to deal.
Allow It To Be A Fantasy
Yes, I was in a happy long term relationship so I was kind of confused by it. I mostly allowed it to be a fantasy but I monitored myself closely to make sure I didn't take any actions for it to become more than that. It mostly passed after a few months.
Joke About It With Your Spouse, If You Have That Kind Of Relationship
I get crushes all the time and I'm married.
They are just crushes...they can be intense, they can be playful, they can be silly, but they are just crushes...unrequited attraction. I actually joke about them with my spouse.
If You're In A Monogamous Relationship, Break Up Before Acting On It
Yep. Broke up with my boyfriend (for various reasons not just this) then acted upon said crush
Don't Cheat
Yes. I ended up cheating the person I was seriously involved with. It wasn't worth it.
Strongly Consider What The Crush Is Telling You About Your Current Relationship
I was already kind of over my SO at the time. When I got a serious crush on another guy, I realized my relationship was fully over and broke up with him. Not for the other person, but to figure out what I really wanted and to take time for myself, since I obviously wasn't happy.It worked out well. Stayed single for a couple years then met a wonderful man who I'm absolutely happy to share a home and life with.
Give Yourself Some Time And Space To Think
I ended my relationship to give me space and time to see if what I was feeling for the other person was worth pursuing. Either way, being seriously interested in someone else meant that the relationship I was already in had to end.
Give It Time To Disappear On Its Own
I had a crush on a guy since high school so for over 15 years. I've been with my husband for 14 years, all while having a crush on him. I never acted on it and then it just went away one day. The crush was an idea of who the person was I wasn't actually in love with them, the more I got to know my crush the less of a crush I had on them. The longer I've been with my husband the more my love for him grows. I would never give up the love that I have to see where a crush could lead.
Accept That Timing Just May Not Be On Your Side With This Particular Person
I had a crush on a friend for years. I met him through mutual friends when we were both single, but his ex begged for him back after our first date.
Thanks to lack of closure, my crush lasted 3 years, and even throughout a multi-year relationship with a guy (who was a major manipulative jerk that cheated on me). But I never acted on it. Eventually, he and his girlfriend broke up, but I was still dwelling on my poop relationship. Then he moved away.
Now, I've just got to note one thing here at the end. Most of these responses dealt more with how to deal with a crush within the confines of a monogamous relationship.