Founder Executive
Opening up is the way forward
When we experience pain, or a 'negative' emotion, we tend to close up on the inside, trying to protect ourselves from future similar experiences. I believe that tensing up is actually the true route of that problem!
You have let other people cause you pain in the past, probably because you ‘opened up’. You now think the only way is tensing up, building walls, creating a mask, being all jolly on the outside and pretending to care for the meaningless approval of superficial interactions, until you start believing it yourself. Yet, the hole inside doesn’t seem to fill, because you closed yourself - therefore nothing can come in to fill it. You start confusing momentary relief with deep joy.
Whenever a deep connection seems to be available, you block it, and feed the vicious cycle you are building for yourself. Whenever something seems to resonate with what used to be in place of that hole, you run, and you tell yourself you are conscious and smart. And whenever you find something superficial that seems to be constant enough, after you bought the lie that that is what you want, then you start opening yourself up again - to nothing more than an illusion you created and, of course, instead of filling that hole, you’ll deepen it, because superficial is not what you need.
These bullshit games go on and on, until you become so ‘wise’ about life, that you never again left the superficial. Bullshit. Bull. Shit. Whenever something reasonates with that hole, some weird feeling that you may feel as new to you, that seems to tell you that ‘you can get really hurt this time’, instead of anything else, open up. Relax, and open yourself. That is the only way. Let go, risk - and beware, you might experience pain by doing this, because you allow yourself to be vulnerable. But this way you Will probably find fulfillment instead. A deep feeling you otherwise may not find.
Think of pain and ultimate fulfillment as two ends of one continuum, only when you open yourself to one will you experience the other. Nobody said it was easy, but remember to always choose momentary pain over a self-maintained, lasting, silent and hidden suffering - that is only there because you closed up with it.
I am not saying 'don't learn from your experience', I am just saying 'don't allow your learning to prevent true experience'
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