A book, that talks about relationships, love, happiness - how to find and keep them.

2019-05-03 15:57:31

Falling in love is easy, but it is much more difficult to maintain that emotion. Everyone wants love to stay, but this is often not the case and it is painful.

Where does love disappear? What happens to happiness? Why do the qualities, that seam "cute" at first, suddenly disturb us? This book brings more clarity into all this.

When we see a couple, who have been happy for a long time, we think, that they were lucky to have both found the right person. But the author of this book writes, that her relationship is satisfying and exciting, because both have made an effort to make it so.

The secret of staying in love lies in the ability to share love all the time.The closer you become to your partner, the more unexpressed and suppressed feelings will come from inside, as knowing that you are loved, will make it safe to show your real feelings. Most people carry inside unresolved feelings from the past, that come up again, when something happens, that reminds us of the primary event. The first of the solutions would be to turn off your feelings, but the problem is, that feelings cannot be turned off selectively, but we can suppress the whole ability to feel. So in this case, we would also suppress the love for our partner. Another possibility is to express those suppressed feelings, that usually ends with overreaction. Most relationships tend to fluctuate between these two options, not feeling anything or feeling too much. The book provides advice on how to get rid of old pains, outrage and fears with the right tools. The techniques suggested by the writer for expressing the emotions and improve the relationships between partners, often can be used with family, friends, co-workers, and children as well.

As a way to improve relationships with your partner, the writer uses a love letter, which allows you to move through different levels of emotions. Every love letter has 6 parts:

1) anger and blame;

2) pain and sadness;

3) fear and uncertainty;

4) guilt and responsibility;

5) will and wishes;

6) Love, forgiveness, understanding and respect

These six parts are described in more detail in the book. There are, of course, many different tips besides writing a letter.

When people usually do not want to tell each other the truth, because they don`t want to hurt their partner or they are ashamed or afraid, then in an atmosphere of dishonesty, love dies. The abandonment of truth is a sure way of destroying passion in relationships. When you push down the truth, you will destroy your ability to feel. And if you don't feel anything, you stop loving. If you don`t tell the truth, you have no inner peace, your self-esteem falls and you feel, that something is out of balance.

The first half of the book speaks more about emotions, how to express them and relationships in general. The other half explains people's sexuality, related problems and their solutions.

Although many problems arise in the book, it is written in a positive way, offering practical solutions and ideas.

It has been some time since i have read this book , but browsing it through again by writing this review, I felt, that i want to read it again. Usually I listen to books in audio during running, but this one I have as a real book at home, so it will be a good reading in the evenings.

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