When a migraine reflects...

These last three days I have been joined by an awful migraine, the kind of guest that you know will come to visit once in a while, and you just count the seconds for them to leave.

I had big plans and I had to cancel everything. So, my mind was driven to a question: ‘Where is freedom of choice when you do not really have a choice?’

- When you are affected by a chronic health condition?
- When you are the only carer of a person who is completely dependant and demands a lot of your time and attention? 
- When you are part of a family/culture that gave you a role to play and implicitly ask you to play smaller and smaller, until you become invisible?
- When you were born in a country/society where you are simply expected to obey the(ir) rules without questioning, just because?

Then, out of the blue I remembered something: life has a cyclical quality! Time and nature agreed on having 4 seasons. So did human existence and freedom of choice. If right now you feel you do not have a choice because of external circumstances, remember that this is just a RIGHT NOW feeling. Your freedom of choice is likely in its Winter season, when it is cold, rainy, foggy, and moving forward may be delayed - even dangerous! - due to a snowfall. 

Spring will come at some points, then Summer, then Autumn. External circumstances will change, and you will be able to get into action again! In the meantime, what you can do is not to let the flame die out. On the contrary, please, keep strengthening and nurturing your relationship with choice, knowing that only an intentional and healthy relationship with choice will enable you to reclaim your freedom when Spring comes. 

It was at this moment that I visualised Cindarella: she was enjoying a roller coaster ride with her pets, her sisters, her stepmother and her prince. I understood it was time for me to stop reflecting and just go to sleep! Good night freedom of choice, see you tomorrow 😴.

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